Category Archives: Thoughts on LOVE

Love…..by Kristen Luther

Guest post by Kristen Luther.

**I asked you want love meant to you.  How it hurt you, healed you, taught you.  Do you believe in it?  Have your thoughts about it changed?  The essay I publish wins a whole lotta love loot from my store.  Thank you for the submissions.

I’m happy to announce Kristen Luther as the author of the winning essay.  Kristen is a jewelry designer, a yoga teacher and writes her own blog www.yogapathwithkristen.jimdo.com – go check it out!

 

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Growing up, I used to think love was this ongoing, wildly romantic date that ultimately culminated in marriage and kids….the whole bit…..and that was it.  It was an immature view of love in the very least.  I mistook infatuation for love many times in my search for Mr. Right until I met my husband and recognized the friend in him, which for me, was the most important component in a marriage.  Once married,however, I was disillusioned.

“Is this all there is?”

Why didn’t it feel like the love I had imagined?  The vision of being romanced on a daily basis and whisked off at a moment’s notice to exotic places by my doting husband were replaced by the realities of work and the stress it can bring into any marriage.  There were financial and work  obligations.  I had lived with my parents until a month before I got married.  I was young…a mere 25 years old with no idea yet who I was.  A dangerous way to enter a marriage!  Still….it forced me to grow and begin to see love for what it is…a process and one that evolved over time.  Love would take many shapes and come to mean many things….none of which I ever expected. It would challenge me to near breaking point and it would show me profound joy.

As love matured and grew….it bubbled over and made children.  Two of them.  They have tested my patience and my resilience as a lover.  Learning to love regardless of defiance and the occasional disrespect.  Wielding some tough love instead of what comes easy, but still love just the same. Helping them to understand responsibility, respect, compassion, so they can enter the world as well adjusted, conscious adults when the time comes.

As I entered my 30’s, I began my soul search in order to learn how to better love myself.  Up until that point, loving myself meant retail therapy and over indulging in food and drink on a daily basis and blaming others for anything that ever went wrong.  It was a vacuous existence and one that left me feeling empty and like a shell of a person.

When I found yoga, that all changed!  I found my voice and my true power.  I began to see the connectivity of all things and developed a profound sense of compassion for the world around me.  This encouraged me to be more conscious of my self, my thoughts and my actions. In doing so, love for myself transformed into learning to listen within and indulge in creative self expressions that spoke to my soul and showing the world who I really am….and for once, not apologizing for it.

I learned to see that the love I cultivated within myself is the most important love to have, because real love must start there.  As a young adult, I was caught up in finding “my other half” or “Mr. Right” and then discovered, through seeking, that love means nothing if I don’t love myself FIRST!  This love ultimately evolved my marriage from a relationship that was simply going through the motions to one that sought deep answers to how we managed ourselves as individuals and how that impacted not only our lives, but that of each other and our children.  It was no longer a superficial existence.  It has become a continual, forward moving, work in progress; not a destination that we expect to arrive at.

Love for me, most of all, has come to mean compassion and respect.  Learning to look deep into another person, to see them and understand them.  Love has come to encompass the meaning for Namaste….the light within me honors the light within you.  As we honor and recognize the light within each other, there is no separation.  We are one.

Do I still believe in love?  Hell yes!  Humans are innately loving beings.  The only thing that holds anyone back from love is fear.

 

 

 

 

And on the 14th day of Feb, God made Love

Wouldn’t it be amazing if it were that easy?  As if, like a good snow storm you know you’re expecting, you look out the window and instead of snow, you saw love.  And because it snowed on the whole town, everyone saw the same thing, and everyone felt the same thing and we all baked cookies and took instagram photos of it. And, instead of everyone being snowed in, they were loved in! Sounds like a perfect Charlie Brown episode, doesn’t it?  Or a Hallmark card scene on Valentine’s day. Which is where those scene’s belong because, let’s face it – when was the last time you wanted to spend… Continue Reading

Introducing our ‘Love past the Moon’ shirts

INTRODUCING OUR ‘LOVE PAST THE MOON’ SHIRTS Punk Rock Love:   Dizzy Love: Vintage Love: THE STORY: Over the summer I wrote a post about a little full moon party I pulled together. It was held in honor of the blue moon that occurred at the end of August – two full moons in the same month – but, as you know, try as I might I just don’t ‘feel’ the moon like others do.  At least, nothing really auspicious or any weirder than regular days happens to me. At this party there happened to be a lot of conversation around children and parenting, of which I mostly listened to.… Continue Reading

Love Competition: This is what I’m talking about

First of all.  Thanks.  A really big, huge thanks to those of you who read each post on the 14 days of Love post.  It felt like an intense 2 weeks, bringing up lots of thoughts on love and surmising what it might be all about and trying my best at capturing the nuances and experiences of Love.  That was Love feeding itself. I mentioned in the last post that it felt like Love was  is everywhere.  I woke wake up each morning happier and feeling more alive, like I was truly in Love.  I’m not kidding.  I really was am!  Of course, the minute you take your eye off it, it… Continue Reading

14 Days of Love: Day 14 ~ Return to Love.

There is a moment in the film ‘Love Actually’ where the little boy, Sam, is not communicating with his step-father (Liam Neeson).  He retreats, he is forlorn, he doesn’t eat and he has a general malaise for life.  Finally, his step-father confronts him and asks what’s up.  With a little hesitation he looks at his father and says “I’m in Love”.  His step-father, a little taken aback, almost with a laugh, responds “I thought it would be something worse” to which Sam responds “Worse than the total agony of being in Love?” “Oh, you’re right” his father replies. For the last 14 days all I have been focused on is… Continue Reading

14 Days of Love: Day 13 ~ “We make 2 cups of tea”

I met Brooke 35 years ago.  I was only a few days old and she was a day shy of being 6 months older than I.  Our parents were best friends at the time and we spent most of our childhood ebbing and flowing with their dynamic.  When they spent a lot of time together, so did we until we were able to chose who we spent out time with and we often chose each other. Brooke is my best friend.  I couldn’t even try to be someone who I am not and I certainly can’t hide anything from her.  She is psychic, and deeply connected to me and so, even… Continue Reading

14 Days of Love: Day 12 ~ Arrivals & Greetings

For as long as I can remember my dad has kicked off our phone conversations with “Who loves ya babe?” instead of the prescribed “Hi”, as his greeting.  When I was younger, and a little cockier I would rattle off a list of names under his anticipatory listening and then eventually get to the answer he was waiting for “you do dad.” “That’s right” he would say. Now, I don’t make him wait for that answer. All the stuff in between is fluff and circumstance, it’s the greeting that I look forward to the most. He also loves to quote movie characters so it’s quite likely that he was simply… Continue Reading

14 Days of Love: Day 11 ~ Poetry

This is the last poetry post for this project (not the last entirely) I couldn’t decide which to choose.  How do you choose a poem that best describes love?  Which, of the many, could possibly be the one?  😉  So, there is more than one. SHE RESPONDED ~ Hafiz The birds’ favorite songs You do not hear, For their most flamboyant music takes place When their wings are stretched Above the trees And they are smoking the opium Of pure freedom. It is healthy for the prisoner To have faith That one day he will again move about Wherever he wants, Feel the wondrous grit of life – Less structured,… Continue Reading

14 Days of Love: Day 10 ~ Music

It’s Friday, 4 days to go.  If you’re anyone of my 4 dinner guests you’re not going to be able to focus on too many words.  So, I’m going for my last playlist for this series.  The hardest thing with this type of post is not what to include, it’s what not to include.  So, I went with goosebumbs and grinding as my decision maker.  If it gave me goose-bumps or made me grind in my seat – it made it.  It’s all below. This song is Goose-bumper for sure!  I almost wanted to give it it’s own post.  I was only 8 when this song was released but, by… Continue Reading